Bingham's world gets even better when, in an airport lounge, he meets Alex Goran (Vira Farmiga), a forty-something businesswoman whose aspirations and outlook are very similar to his own. Goran ends up back at Bingham's hotel room and the two decide to swap schedules and continue the affair when their travels overlap. Goran assures Bingham that there are no rules and no expectations for their relationship :"I am the woman that you don't have to worry about."
Bingham is forced to take his firm's bright new employee, Natalie Keener (Anna Kendrick), on his next business trip to show her the ropes. Bingham believes Keener is foolish because she took this job in order to be with her boyfriend. He can't understand why she would let a relationship determine her future. However, throughout the trip, Bingham develops a degree of respect for Keener. At the same time as Bingham begins to develop a friendship with Keener, his feelings for Goran begin to deepen. While he tries to play it off, it is obvious that the relationship is no longer just about sex. All of a sudden he finds himself more connected and more involved in her life than he ever wanted to be with anyone. Keener picks up what is going on and challenges him to be honest with himself and thus honest with Goran about his feelings for her.
This struggle challenges the very core of Bingham's soul as he chooses to abandon what he values and go after Goran. When he shows up at her house, however, he is stunned to find that she is married with two kids. Bingham turns to leave as her husband calls out 'who is it honey' and Goran responds 'its no one, just someone who lost their way.' Later, she calls Bingham to accost him for showing up at her house. Bingham, confused, says "I thought I was part of your life." "I thought we signed up for the same thing." Goran responds, "I thought our relationship was perfectly clear. You are an escape. You're a break from our normal lives. You're a parenthesis."
There are a number of themes in this film which raise important questions about how we understand and live out our relationships. Not just our relationships to other humans, but our relationship to technology and how it enhances or detracts from our human relationships. I want to examine how this film exemplifies the connection between technological dependence and human independence. First, however, I want to explain what I mean by technological dependence.
Since the Industrial Revolution, development of technological devices has accelerated exponentially. One implication of this acceleration is the proliferation of these devices. Each year, new, more sophisticated technology takes over tasks which were once done 'by hand.' The more these devices replace these tasks, the more old skills are lost and we become dependent upon the devices which replaced them (for example, few people are able to build a fire without a lighter or matches - a task which every schoolchild would have know not more than a century ago; even fewer people are able to hunt with a bow and arrow to provide meat).
When further technology is developed to replace additional tasks, it often assumes and depends on the existing technology. We are then dependent upon a technology which is itself dependent upon another technogogy (e.g. after tractors were invented, new plows came out which could not be pulled by horses. This meant that when a farmer had to buy a new plow, he no longer had the option of using horses, he had to buy a tractor too). This goes on and on, creating a web where newer and newer technology is increasingly dependent upon older technology.
Philosopher Albert Borgmann calls the resulting web of technology the Device Paradigm. Within the device paradigm, Borgmann contends, technological devices become part of a particular lifestyle. Each particular lifestyle is dependent upon a certain set of interdependent technology. Over time, these lifestyles become commodities. The devices which support these lifestyles, then, become part of the commodity and are marketed and sold as such. (The iPod is a good example of this.)
In "Up in the Air," Bingham has bought into a particular lifestyle. He is what we might call the "jet-setter." He loves travel and everything that comes with it. He enjoys being on one coast one day and the other the next. He relishes the respect he gets from airlines, car rental companies and hotels for his premium traveler status. He lives to earn more air-miles. Part of the lifestyle he has bough into requires him to be unencumbered by human relationships (which Bingham thinks is one of the keys to his success). He has very little contact with his family and no friends to speak of. His job revolves around cutting off relationships. A majority of his human contact is with people he has been hired to fire. He will never see these people again. He is assured that no one will ever miss him, be hurt by him, need him or look for him, he is completely free.
When further technology is developed to replace additional tasks, it often assumes and depends on the existing technology. We are then dependent upon a technology which is itself dependent upon another technogogy (e.g. after tractors were invented, new plows came out which could not be pulled by horses. This meant that when a farmer had to buy a new plow, he no longer had the option of using horses, he had to buy a tractor too). This goes on and on, creating a web where newer and newer technology is increasingly dependent upon older technology.
Philosopher Albert Borgmann calls the resulting web of technology the Device Paradigm. Within the device paradigm, Borgmann contends, technological devices become part of a particular lifestyle. Each particular lifestyle is dependent upon a certain set of interdependent technology. Over time, these lifestyles become commodities. The devices which support these lifestyles, then, become part of the commodity and are marketed and sold as such. (The iPod is a good example of this.)
In "Up in the Air," Bingham has bought into a particular lifestyle. He is what we might call the "jet-setter." He loves travel and everything that comes with it. He enjoys being on one coast one day and the other the next. He relishes the respect he gets from airlines, car rental companies and hotels for his premium traveler status. He lives to earn more air-miles. Part of the lifestyle he has bough into requires him to be unencumbered by human relationships (which Bingham thinks is one of the keys to his success). He has very little contact with his family and no friends to speak of. His job revolves around cutting off relationships. A majority of his human contact is with people he has been hired to fire. He will never see these people again. He is assured that no one will ever miss him, be hurt by him, need him or look for him, he is completely free.
However, the fallout between Goran and Bingham shows him that he had deceived himself about his lack of need for human relationships. He does not want his life to 'be a parenthesis' or an 'escape.' He does not want to be transient and unconnected. He wants to need and wants to be needed.
Bingham's unencumbered lifestyle was enabled and perpetuated by the existence of technology. Without cars, airplanes, cellphones, email and sundry other technologies, Bingham's lifestyle would be impossible. All these technologies worked together to give him the life he wanted. Moreover, technology enabled Bingham to continue telling himself that he didn't need human relationships.
However, if he had not had that luxury, he would have been forced into regular human relationships. He would be forced to see the same people day in and day out in his neighbourhood, his office building, the supermarket, etc. He would be forced to participate in community, depend on others and be responsible for his actions. Along the way he might make some friends or even fall in love. He also might get hurt but at least his life would be more than a parenthesis.
I'm no Luddite. I think technology is useful and helpful. However, technology is always a loss as well as a gain. The tasks replaced by technology were often tasks that required human interaction. As we continue to develop and appropriate technology, let us be aware of the losses that come along with it (especially the human ones) and take steps to meet those needs in other ways.